What to expect in the sessions
The sessions will start at the same time each week. They last 50 minutes and will finish on time. In both locations, London Bridge and Chessington, there is a waiting area. In the room are two comfortable chairs approximately facing each other.
I usually allow you to start the session as what is on your mind as you come in is often important and a good place to strt the session. In general during the sessions it is you who decides what to say. My job, as the counsellor, is to respond to what you say, perhaps making links between things, or prompting you to think about it in a different way. Sometimes I will try to understand where a particular feeling, attitude or behaviour comes from in the past. Much of the way our minds work was learned in childhood and it can often be helpful to explore what happened in childhood, particularly key relationships with parents and siblings.
I find a useful analogy of the therapy process is making a jigsaw. You bring the pieces and I help you to put them together into a meaningful and coherent picture. Sometimes there is some emotional energy associated with a particular piece that needs to be released, perhaps by bringing it into awareness, or perhaps by placing it alongside other pieces.
Unlike some other forms of therapy I don't bring a particular agenda, theory or pet solution. I believe that each person I see is unique and it is a joint task to gain a greater understanding, and with that some relief. I don't set homework, although if you feel it is helpful for you you may choose to do something between sessions, for example writing a journal.